He wants to come home....HELP!

[praying_in_GA]

So, he has been home 5 days now. Some days are great, we are happy and affectionate. Some days make me sad, he is distant and does not initiate any contact at all. He said he still has a lot to think about. It seems (to me, and I am not a mind reader! LOL!) that he is in the same boat as I am. We just don't know how to act around each other now. I want to show him love and attention so he knows how good life can be here at home, but the DR side of me says not to do that. He says he is still confused about his feelings and where we are going. I told him that when I said he could come home I included that he should remember we are married and trying to work things out or I didn't want him here. He said he knows, but he doesn't want to lead me on thinking things are great when they are still so rocky.

He is in the spare room for now. I have both kids in my room. I am working on getting the oldest out of my bed then I will move to the younger one. It is hard to have time together with these two munchins running around. We did things all wrong with them. They need one of us to go to bed with them and it takes at least 15-20 min to get them to fall asleep. They both sleep in the master bed. They also don't go to bed until 10pm. I have to get them in their own beds/rooms and to bed earlier or we have no chance at fixing anything.

He asked me out to dinner and a movie next week. I am looking forward to it, but seeing how we live around each other I am wondering how we are going to interact alone for a few hours. I don't know if I should be loving, attentive, and affectionate aka acting 'as if' OR if I should be following some of the DR principles.

It was so much easier when he was gone! LOL! At least then I knew how to portray myself! I am wondering if I let emotions get the best of me and let him home too soon.

If anyone has an advice, I am all ears (or would that be eyes?)!