Ok, I have some questions if y'all can entertain me.
1. W has said before that I am not welcome in home when I am back for R&R, I WILL be staying in the home-no matter what she says, however, do I tell her this before I get there, or just do it?
JUST DO IT.
2. If there is OM, knowing that I am leaving again in 2 weeks, I will lay the boundary, but how can I enforce it if I am not there?
We'll have to give this one some thought. Let's wait and see what the P-I comes back with (also my answer to your previous question, asked multiple times, of "What do I do if there is no OM?")
3. I will be there at Christmas-do I buy W a small gift? Wish her Merry C? She didn't call me on Tgiving, so I am thinking NO.
I think this also depends on what the PI comes back with. I gave my wife nothing from me, but small, practical gifts from the kids (Starbucks gift card, etc.), and a Shoebox card with just my first name written in it (I normally would get her a romantic card, with a long handwritten special note in it).
4. If the idea is to be a strong, confident Alpha male, looking good, smelling good, not over reacting to anything she says or does - how do I pull that off without looking like I am faking it? I know NOTHING about fashion etc. I have the means to buy new clothes-she is used to me in Harley T-shirts, and jeans. What do I buy-LADIES??? Go to a good department store (like Nordstrom's) or men's store known for their service, and let a salesperson -- pref. female -- help you out. Sounds like this is an area where it wouldn't take much to make an impression!
5. What do I do, if she just locks me out of the M bedroom? We have locks on the doors. Do I just accept that, or get the key and open the door and go in?
The latter.
I have more questions, and will post them soon. Thank you all for your help-I am a better man because of all of you.
