She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

Thanks for the reply Sandi. They all mean a lot. right now, I'm so deep in self-doubt about every little thing.

She is manipulating you and the kids. Perhaps she has always done this and you allowed her to get by with it?

People like your W continue to do it until it becomes a "way of life" and they reach a place they may not even realize how they are treating people. Perhpas she doesn't realize but then OTOH.....she may very well know what she's doing. (You know your W, so what do you think?)

That's a good question, have I allowed her to do this for years? Maybe. This does seem like new stuff; she seems like a completely different person; an alien. In the past, she has lashed out at OTHERS in this way, usually targeting one ENEMY at a time. Either a best friend, a neighbor, or a co-worker. This is the first time I've become the enemy, and she's made up with all the other enemies in her life. It's very irrational, and I think she is aware of that. But I don't think she has any idea that she has changed her focus to me.

If you feel like a doormat, that is probably b/c you are being stepped on a lot!

Yes. I've often felt like I was taking care of three children and felt resentful because of it. The thing is, I can see now how my resentment of this is one of the many problems in the M. It wasn't honest or loving of me to continue this way, and harbor the resentment. I have to laydown to be a doormat, right?

After all these years, it's hard standing up now and she sure doesn't like it. I'm not very sure of what I'm doing, but I seem to be getting clearer.