Does she call when shes going to be late? The only thing here is that if you expect her to be in by 12:30 am, you have to be in by 12:30 am, know what I mean?
There are a few books, one called No More Mr. Niceguy, and another called Hold Onto Your N.U.T.S -(I think)that you might want to check out, they come pretty highly recommended by men on these boards.
You dont have to be an a$$, in fact I would continue to be respectful, after all, your children are watching, but dont be overly accomodating. I also certainly wouldnt call her if shes late, she will see if as controlling. But I also dont think that its unreasonable for you to have some kind of expectation of when shell be home, some men even set that as a boundary, ie- dont come home after midnight. If it is a "business" concern I think that she should be consulted, but I wouldnt give her anymore consideration than you think that she would give you.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
