mo3,
No 2x4s here. You said what you hda to say. Eloquently, calmly and with strength and honor and then turned and walked away.
I admire you. Others may find technical DB faults but if you feel suddenly somehow coming to a place of peace after you had your say. And relieved like a great burden has been lifted, I'd say you did the exact right thing. Cards on the table.

And re the divorce or mediation, whatever: He wants it, let him get the ball rolling. The phrase I used repeatedly with STBXW since I wanted to work, not D was, "I won't resist, but I won't assist, either.

Proud of you standing up and calmly telling it like it is tonight!

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac