Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

mindfull. She doesn't work on the weeekends, so that isn't an issue. However, she does go out sometimes on weeknights, but I don't know what time she gets in, as boys go to sleep at 9. I would think that a 38 YOW, would get tired of being tired, used, whatever, but I guess not. She has been going pretty steady at it for 3-4 months now. I want to bring her home, but I don't know if she even WANTS to come home. She seems to be having a great time. No responsibilities, and all the freedom in the world. Boys can take care of themselves, it's basically this: she is acting like a teenager right along with my boys. When they back talk her, or don't do what she says, she immediately calls me and demands that I do something. I don't call her back. How does she not see what she is doing isn't healthy? I just don't get this stuff...