wow--I'm sorry that happened to you. no matter how far we think we've come, when we have to look the devil in the face it tends to shake us down to the core.

I can so relate to that awful sense of being replaced in my own family, feeling betrayed, being relegated to obscurity. it's a horrible feeling. In my case, it's my exH who's the servile, weak one; this blustering, selfish, larger-than-life man who did whatever he damn well pleased in our marriage no matter who it hurt, now takes great pleasure in mucking out horse stalls and rubbing his honey's feet after a hard day at work. What a worm he's become.


M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012