Hi soldierdad! Good morning (?) Antlers is right, on all counts, including the last bit!
Is it ok with you for the boys to be home alone overnight? That seems like a pretty reasonable boundary, Esp if they dont even know that shes not there! 40 y/o women dont pull all nighters! It doesnt seem right to me, but I dont have kids...
Gee, ya THINK???
This is completely unacceptable. If she were a single parent, someone could call HHS on her for doing something like this.