I feel you. My H has the boys for 5 days at a time. I don't work and he works shift work, so 5 on, 5off. It is the hardest thing I'll ever have to do in my life. Today is day 2 of 5. I've never felt more lonely. You know, when you decided to start a family and have children you definitely don't prepare to only see them part time. Its so unfair. I feel your pain. I would give a million dollars to see my babies right now, but I guess we need to accept our situations. Find something to do. Do something you can't do when you have your child. Make use of the time you have to yourself. Have a good day!
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
I am so sorry to hear that Britt. I truly feel to you. It looks like we both need some distraction. All the movies and shopping in the work don't fix it, but its nice to be zoned out for a few minutes here and there.
I am a jackass. S didn't have a bed "there" yet. I offered to get one for him. Still trying to be the good guy I guess. I brought it to her place this afternoon. The first time I saw the place.
There they were. My family. My wife, son, dog, my car...all cozy in their new place. Its a nice place. All new stuff. Apparently she stashed more money than I was aware of. I should have made her get the bed.
They even had a new Christmas tree all up and decorated.
I was in and out quickly. S wanted to stay there with mom, so I left him there.
She didn't even have him call me last night or this morning. She see to have totally moved on already.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
Never, EVER, *assume* this. Mindreading, LBS, 15 yard penalty. (And don't necessarily believe if she says it word for word, either.)
Hang in there. This is the hardest period to get through for a lot of folks. Do some self-care, do some GAL and go be with people who love you and support you.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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It is so hard to see anything other than what is being presented to me sometimes.
W brought S home this morning. Its very strained and awkward between us. She either has the strong girl face on, or she just isnt feeling anything about all of this. She has been looking forward to her "freedom" for so long. I had thought the move, losing her home and half of the time with her son, may do something to wake her up. I guess its still early into the living apart thing.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
W had her parents over. I asked her to have S call me since I didn't know what their plans were. I could have called, but I kept waiting to hear from one of them until it was late.
I didn't saw anything to W about it because she would just say that I was being critical of her. She can be as much of a mean, thoughtless b1tch as she wants. If I have the nerve to call her out, she says I am being critical. She would com she didn't remember the conversation anyway.
Stop doing what doesn't work right?
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
What a heartless human being. S called her in tears because her and our dog aren't here. Her response "I'm not really sure what to tell you. We're not doing anything fun that you're missing out on over here." WFT?
As are as the reason I didn't call the other night, I was just trying to be respectful of the time they were spenging with her parents. The lake of call is really the least of my concerns. The stone cold robot who inhabits my wife's body is really the issue.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
Mindreading, LBS, 15 yard penalty. (And don't necessarily believe if she says it word for word, either.)