Our house, your house. Semantics. The kids know that you are home. What's more important is that you know that, too. Really its great that the kids have TWO homes where parents want them. Unless of course you take the big bucks job in far enough away place that the kids would either have to move with you (didn't hear that mentioned) or the wife gets a nanny.
'blah blah blah.. mommy says it's none of your business, dad.'
And it's not. What will be different is your divorcing spouse cutting you out of her emotional upheavals. Outta the mouths of babes.. listen well to your children.
'blah blah blah.. mommy is kind of in love with a guy...'
Well geez.. waxing poetic for the kiddies. Still none of your business. In a perfect world mom wouldn't share that type of information with the kids. Then again, what do the kids know of your special interest? And guess what.. none of their business either.
I do wonder at times where your children will end up in your situation... abroad for one or both parents, separate states... who knows where.
And.. at some point, just like the professor in the Wizard of Oz, life gets easier when you come out from behind the curtain.
Disclaimer... Letting loose..
George.. at least you're George for now. Are you and your soon to be ex the most idiotic people in the world? What in the heck are both of you doing going gaga over other folks in the midst of a divorce when you're not sticking needles in each other's voodoo dolls?
Yeah yeah yeah.. have my own life, what's good for the goose is good for the gander, I'm finding me again.. Guess what? That's the biggest tub of hogwash I've ever heard. Remember Bill Clinton's slogan.. "It's the economy, stupid." Try adapting that to "It's the children, (insert word)."
What type of security are either of you giving your kids when you're busy pushing buttons, threatening to move, getting upset because one fears the kids love the other parent more.
Sheesh. Remember divorce is a lose lose proposition. No one wins. The best you can hope is to protect your children. And remember.. all the crap that's going on is teaching your kids how to face conflict, resolve issues.
Consider dropping the fancy wrapping, the honeyed tone, the twist of the knife, the twinkle of wit.. and process what's going on. Just be George.
