Yeah, if I told my wife sexual details, it would probably upset her. Which is why she doesn't ask. And so are you suggesting I should tell her? Which would clearly up set her. And how would that help?
I suppose you're going to tell me that only by coming clean can we have a great sexual relationship reaching level 6. Not likely. She is who she is, and she's not interested in sex. The reason she doesn't want sex is NOT because I'm a sexual person. We've been down that reasoning line in therapy already, and it's done nothing but run down the clock, all during which she has a great reason for not having sex.
In fact, if she changed her mind and wanted a divorce, being able to tell everyone that it was all because I cheated would be a perfect way for her to sidestep all her own issues. Or in kindness to her, perhaps it's not fair to say "issues". She isn't interested in sex, for whatever reason, and there's absolutely NOTHING wrong with that. The ONLY problem is that we are not sexually compatible any longer.
