yup, that's what I'm thinking: either gay or he has some other woman (man) on the side and she hasn't found out yet.
Let's test the living arrangement thing he proposed.
Heather if you guys haven't been physically intimate with him for a long time, tell him with this living arrangement, is he ok with you bringing another man home on certain evenings and him taking the kids out while you have someone "over".
Just tell him you're a healthy woman and you have physical needs and that if he can't be with you physically/sexually like a normal husband and just wants to share a home, you won't live a sexless life in your own home for the rest of your life. You want to have sex in your own bed in your own home where you are comfortable. You don't want to have to go out to a hotel as if you're having an affair, you want to enjoy having sex with an attractive, masculine, male partner in your own bed.
Say it with a straight face and gauge his response.
Seriously if the guy doesn't give a crap about you wanting to have sex with other men and you're thinking about it, there is nothing much left to hold on to here.
It's your choice to stay married to him for the rest of your life in a sexless, loveless marriage but I'm sure you can't hold out that long.
