He wants me to agree to share house forever

[Heather]

Test him how? Demanding he move out and we sell home? By starting to date? By filing for divorce?

I have read the midlife crisis advice that advises against demanding they leave? And it's possible to recover from an affair but not from a run to the basement? I'm confused by what seems like conflicting advice.

I am feeling like this relationship is over (duh) and a mediated settlement and a new life dating appeals to me.... A relationship with a non-passive aggressive man would be swell. H is basically giving me an out. I never wanted to divorce, but this feels like Pauline Priviledge to me...

But, yeah, I'm working things through out loud. I didn't even realize this had been going on so long until I wrote it out.

We're in weekly MC right now. C supports both of us, but is reminding H that this is forever. Mentioned last session that it's too bad we hadn't started negotiating sooner...

Considered the possibility of him being gay because he's been rejecting me sexually for so long. He's also kind of a "soft" guy. No offense to gays, who can be as hard or as soft as he wants.