He wants me to agree to share house forever

[Heather]

I am considering some sort of mediated collaborative separation that would protect my assests and clearly define the finances. Would need to make sure there is a plan in place for when one of us does choose to leave the home. I will speak to a lawyer.

There are pluses to staying in the home. On both sides. I was planning on starting a masters in January, was hoping to stay home while Son is in school for at least another year... Full time at home parenting is important to me. I understand that kids are flexible and thrive in all sorts of environments, but this is something I feel strongly about.

I'm trying to think everything through.

Would have to be clear that passive aggressive game playing would lead to sellng of home and end of this agreement. I've been on to that sort of thing for a whilenow, but never actually had leverage to enforce consequences. Wierd to think of separation as giving me more power in the relationship than I had.