Puppy: Actually I agree with you there 100%. What I meant was that Oblivious should not expect the W to come clean 100% just like that. which kinda goes with the para Rob quoted too.
Again, I think it all depends on where she's claiming she's at. If she's saying "Yes, I will end it, and come back and work at trying to heal our marriage," then he should accept no less than 100% no-contact and full transparency. If she's not yet ready to claim that, then probably no.
