I don't think I would "force" the kids to see H. You can encourage them to spend time with their dad but they are old enough to make their own decisions about spending time with him. They may decide to later on when the pain isn't so raw. Of course by that time you may be living hundreds of miles away from H.
You asked about my thread. My last one is in MLC but I haven't posted on there in months. H and I are Piecing but it's been a very slow process. I'll give everyone an update eventually.
After H's PA and S, I too moved across the country back to my hometown where I had left behind a job, family and friends for H's career. My H didn't ask me to stay until a few days before I was about to move. At that point it was too late because I had made all the arrangements and I knew H was still going through the withdrawal process from OW and continued with his many lies. We lived 2500 miles apart for almost a year. He's now been back with us for 6 months. I'd advise you to do what you feel is best for yourself and your kids and if that's moving to Fl where you have support then so be it. Maybe one day your H will wake up and realize he's the one missing out on his kids' lives.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
