I was confused because before and when he went he couldn't bear me near him and when he looked at me it was with hard, cold eyes. This new (old) side of him was a real surprise to me and totally unexpected. What I didn't want to do was have expectations that would then be dashed as they were in July 09 when he returned to make the relationship work and before I knew what I was dealing with.
I am prepared to wait and see what the outcome is. I think I am going to put boundaries in to protect the kids because in trashing our marriage he has also trashed their history and they feel that i.e holidays, days out that he didn't enjoy, so need to ask him to be careful what he says to them but in the nicest possible way.
