12 and 15. I guess the big issue is-I just don't think it is right that she just goes out and leaves them at home, and doesn't check in on them.
Hi SD, My heart goes out to you. I was witness 1st hand to the strain & stress overseas military deployment has on marriages when my BIL/SIL went through an affair & subsequent R damage during her deployment.
I've been reading along, but you've been getting good advice so I've not chimed in... this caught my eye however & I wanted to swing a little 2x4 your direction.
When you are home here in a few weeks & if you & your W 'go out'... would you leave your boys home alone then?
Most 12 & 15 year olds are babysitting in other people's homes & responsible for other people's children by this point in their lives.
Are your boys not capable of being responsible for themselves in their own home for 5-6 hour stretches without direct adult supervision or being checked on?
Protective is one thing.. unrealistic expectations are another.
Is it possible because you don't know "who" she's going out with... and you're not really sure you want to know the answer to that.. so you choose to 'pick the battle' that your boys were home alone?
If that is the case, I would caution you to pick your battles carefully.
Peace Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
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