He wants me to agree to share house forever

[Heather]

Wierd councilling session. I think I'm hearing the C say that co-living could work? He says it might be good financially? Maybe he is just trying to get us to open up and communicate clearly, to openly discuss options? I don't know... He didn't come right out and say it was a horrible idea.

H is argueing he can live in basement. H continues to believe it is unreasonable of me to expect him to keep commitments.

H messed up last night. Had to stay late stay at work for emergency (god, maybe he is seeming someone... But his work does have big flaming emergencies), called to tell me he would be late, but home by 8. I had plans to go out at 8. I told him I understood work was important, and asked him to let me know if he was not going to be able to make it home. Of course, he didn't, and I tracked him down at 8 myself to confirm that I should cancel with my friend. This is exactly what I've been talking about in session - empty promises and taking me for granted.

So I sit him down today and explain that his groovy co-living co-parenting plan is not on the table unless he starts to demonstrate that he can comunicate with me openly and honestly, and he makes keeping commitments to me a priority.

Also, he is argueing we won't get much from the sale of the house. I think this is wrong, we are in the middle of a housing bubble here, and we live in s desirable neighbourhood... Guess I need to document value of home?