Just another quick question, has anyone had anything to do with David from www.[censored].com ? If you have, what are your thoughts? I plan on buying his book from his website.
We get censored if we try to put information about certain web sites. Don't really know why, but it is part of the policy.
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I'm tempted to do it now as she will be in for a shock when she has to pay half. I'm on two minds whether I do this as it may push her further away.
I think shock is good for a WAW. But, be careful that you do not do something that would not be in your best interest just in order to shock her.
That is why it is good for the WAW to see her LBH having a life, going out and enjoying being single again. She doesn't see him crying all over her and begging her to come back. Instead of seeing the man she was turned off by...she is seeing a sexy, strong, confident man who has a wonderful personality and seems happy. He doesn't appear to be mourning over her at all! Now, that shocks her b/c she was not expecting that.....and it triggers some jealousy.
Shock and loss.....those are the two things that they pay attention to. She needs to realize her loss if she D you. Being the man that I have described above is the first step in causing her to realize she'll be losing that man if she gets a D. Then the financial begins to hit her.
If you have kids, then go for full custody. That will be another shocker. Settle for nothing less that 50-50.
She needs to experience missing you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
For some reason I don't think she will be shocked when I go tomorrow night feeling good. She will probably see it as a positive for me, but I do hope she will miss me.
I've lost about 9kgs and I can wear stuff that I wouldn't of before. I'm actually thinking about wearing one of the shirts she brought me for my birthday. I figured she brought it for me cause she liked it. I plan on looking and smelling great, and I'm purposely going to get there about 15 minutes late to make an impression when I walk in with confidance. I'm never late for anything, I'm the exact opposite, I'm always early. I'm even planing on playing a song loudly in my car before I get there cause it always hypes me up and makes me feel good.
Lol, sounds perfect Stu. I think that showing up late also lets her know that you arent sort of sitting there just waiting for some sort of attention from her like a little puppy dog.
She will see an attractive, confident, happy man, and none of us can know what she will think of it. But, those are things that most women like to see in their men.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
Go for it Stu, you can do this and although its hard work being with your OH for that first time, it can also be quite funny if you can see the amusing side. All you need to do is keep a good PMA going,remember you know what your plan is, W doesnt know whats coming at all! If you go and read my thread the first time I saw H in over a month I was a very naughty girl, (aided and abetted by some of the guys on here I might add) but it sure got his attention lol!
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
I've planned a trip to Fiji for the 3 of us in Jan, and my W already said about 2 weeks ago that she wouldn't join us, but she was ok for me to take our son. I would really like her to join us fior a few reasons:
1. Our son would love to have us both there on the trip. 2. Our son needs to know that even though things havn't worked out between W and I, that he can still enjoy things with the both of us and that we can still be civil towards each other. I think this would teach him an important lesson. 3. I would like the opportunity to re-build my friendship with my W (even though she has no intentions on working on our marrigae). She might even be able to see what attracted me to her in the first place (she said it was that I made her laugh)
Obviously, she would sleep in the bed with our son, and I would sleep on the couch.
The trip is only 6 weeks away, and she asked for the divorce about 2 weeks ago. Is it too soon or is there a way I can convince her to join us ?
