"I think the thing that doesn't get mentioned here, that is either the best-kept secret or the unique thing about my marriage, is how utterly normal and unremarkable my wife thought the end of sex between us was. She looked at it as the Circle of Life. The sexual relationship is born when you're dating, dwindles upon marriage, and dies completely a couple of years in. Then you have sex when the spirit moves you, and if it never does, then you do something else instead. Perfectly normal, inevitable, and certainly nothing to get worked up about.
The HD half of the relationship has a very hard time grasping this. Even if their other half openly states that everyone's marriage inevitably ends up sex-free, they tend to think there's some hidden truth that's being covered up by this implausible lie."
Yes. DH says he loves me, says he wants us to be together forever. But I just can't get my mind around the concept of a lifelong relationship with no sex! I've learned that men are NOT perpetually horny, which is what I used to think. But why on earth would a man want to stay "forever" in a relationship with no sex? And how can you love someone and not want to have sex with them? I just don't get that at all....
