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[wolverine1997]

Did I just mess up? My wife and kids get dressed. I asked her where they are going. She says to visit her parents. I ask her if I am invited. She snarls her face and rolls her eyes and in an irritated voice says "If you want to". I know she doesn't want me to go so I say and do nothing. I think now that I should have taken advantage of the invitation and went along. This would have given me a chance to spend time together with her. But it also may have just angered her more. What do you guys think. In restrospect I think that I should have gone.

Also, while watching the football game my wife gets a call on her cell phone. It is apparently an old male school mate who lives out of state that she hasn't talked to in years or at least a very long time. They make a lot of small talk about family and other schoolmates. I am in the same room with my wife the whole time and she continues to talk. Over the last year or so my wife has been big at contacting old friends and schoolmates. At the end of the conversation she tells him that the next time he comes to town to contact her and she and a few of their friends would meet up with him for dinner.

At this point my blood starts to boil. She is inviting another man out to dinner. I know she said it would be in a group setting, but I also know that I won't be invited. Am I over reacting? Should I say something to her? Should I leave it alone?

Lastly, I have been thinking about talking to her sister or mother about our situation. I know that this is against DB principles but I am desperate. I'm more inclined to talk to her sister since she is more inclined to encourage her to do the right thing. I talked to her mother about a two years ago and it turned into a disaster. She broke my confidence and told my wife everything that I said and much of it out of context. My wife was very upset. I get along with my inlaws well and they don't want us to divorce but they are content to sit back and mind their own business even though they will see their daughter walking off of a cliff. I'm really desperate at this point.
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