Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Also, I am thinking ahead here. What are some good replies to her saying things like:
"this is your fault this happened-you pushed me away"
"I told you I filed for separation, so I can do whatever I want"-NOT TRUE by the way
"We have had problems for so long, I just can't take it anymore"
"I don't love you anymore"
"you made me do this"
"I don't want to hurt you, and I don't want to hurt anymore"
"This is what I want, nothing you can do or say will ever change that"

I am just trying to be ahead of her, so that I don't erupt, and say hurtful things back at her-I don't want to play that game. I want to do this right. Thoughts?

SoldierDad