Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[bluerain]

Well, I think that you need to think about what the potential consequences of her breaking the boundary might be.

I think that maybe you could tell her that you wont share her, and then request transparency, access to her emails, cell phone records, etc. if she does not want to do that, you will pursue legal sep as soon as you return in March. At which point, she will lose her dependants benefits, and you will seek custody of your sons in the ensuing divorce.

Of course the danger here, is she agrees to it, and picks up a little prepaid phone to do her A talking on. But it may just be the best that you can do right now.

Soldierdad, what are you doing for YOU right now? Are you sleeping enough, eating enough? Are there changes that you could be making to make yourself a better husband/father/person? Maybe you could be researching the roadtrip with the boys? I just hate to think of this consuming you, I know exactly how hard this is. You need something positive in your life right now. Do you pray? I didnt until this started happening to my marriage, now 2 years later, I still do.