Oh, I absolutely agree, she does need to socialize! I also agree that this will be good for your stress level. Going dark not only helps them wonder what you are up to, it helps you to detach from things. It helps when your situation isnt constantly in your face.

Have you instituted any 180's? What are you hoping to get out of the appointment? It might be a good time to show him that you are willing to make some changes for the sake of your kids and marriage.

I dont think that my ex would ever file if I werent pursuing it. Hes never been particularlly good at dealing with things.

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...