It's too hard sometimes

[bluerain]

After 9 years, Im sure that she knows exactly how much it bothers you when she says "Im done". You were being reasonable, and she tried to engage you... dont give in.

Also, I think that it is reprehensible that she is doing this to those girls. She is trying to use them to hurt you.

I think that my only advice for tonight would be calm down, and step away. You apparently diffused the situation, she responded favorably (not missing the chance to remind you that shes done, of course), let it go for tonight.