Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Blue, IF, and only IF she either continues with OM, or lies to me about ANYTHING-those are my deal breakers. How to tell if she is lying, or still seein OM, after I redeplpy? Not sure about this yet. - Thoughts? Also, I agree with the boundaries for myself and the boys. I don't think she hasn't brought OM to our home-she leaves the boys there EVERY TIME she goes out. I believe/think she is going to OM house/apt-hence the PI I hired. I will know more in 10 days or so, then I am going to need as much help as possible...