Help... I need to stop reacting!

[CountingCrows]

Wow, RDW! Just spend a good portion of my day reading through your thread from start to finish. As usual, so many good insights and advice come from these amazing people on the forum. But above all else, I felt so much pride for you and your ability to deal with everything you've had thrown your way. If I could handle 1/2 of my encounters with W (and myself) the way you have, I know I'd be in a better place right now. My heart and my respect goes out to you.

Our situations are much different, since my W moved out as soon as I discovered she hadn't stopped R with OM (which she continues in her fog). Wish I had known about transparency when I first found out about the A to have set that non-negotiable boundary, as things could have turned out much different for me. Attempting to DB with a WAW with her head in the clouds is unbelievably difficult. But despite the differences in our sitches, so much of your patience, anger, sadness, fears and attitude rings familiar. I've learned so much by reading this thread, seeing real-world examples of DB principals in action. Thank you! Without knowing it, you've given me strength and reinforcement that I can handle whatever comes my way.

You really are a Strong, attractive, confident and AMAZING woman! I wish you the best, knowing you deserve nothing less.