I was almost a WAW but I never left home. I had all the feelings and said the "script" things to my H .....and almost left the night everything hit the fan, but came back home after thinking about having to go to work the next day. Anyway, my story is a bit different but I was no different than any other WAW in my heart. It was as closed as a tomb! I think a short separation might have been helpful to me & my H just to let all the tension go and rest a few days away from each other. But, when you have close family member....and you live in a very small town, it's hard to do without causing a lot of gossip, or else a lot of explaining.....so we never S.
We never filed for D. I did not get to the brink of it. I suppose that I was raised that you S first, and then you file for D. Most people just jump straight for the D.
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I guess I'm wondering if the fact she hasn't filed when she said she was going to soon on Oct. 22 is a good thing or is it too early to read anything into that?
Well I believe she has one hand still left on you as a vine, while she's swinging toward another vine (OM) and she's not letting go until she knows she's good and safe with the new vine.
My H did not date when I was in a WAW mode. But, if he had acted as if he wanted to, it would have really gotten my attention and if he had been interested in one particular person....my jealousy would have been soaring. So, that ios something to consider. Everyone has to decide if that is right for them or not.
Have to shut down now, but I'll catch you tomorrow. Stay strong. You can do this.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
