Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

All, thanks for all of the advice. I think you are spot on Greek, in reference to what I will say in the event she raises he voice-blames me for the A, etc. Also, I forsee her telling me that I "made" her do this, and it is my fault. Anyone have any good comebacks for those excuses?
Puppy, I picked the 2 days I picked, based upon patterns. When I would call my sons on these particular days, they told me that she was out-nearly every time. One is a weeknight, other is weekend. Also, I am pretty good at being able to tell if she is lying or not. There are certain things she does when she lies. I am feeling more and more confident about standing up to her, as I travel this road I am on. The biggest thing I need to concentrate on is my boys, and taking care of them to the best of my abilities. I am already working on myself-One Day At A Time. The next thing I need to do is to bust her affair-if there is one. I should be overjoyed to be going home to visit my kids, but sometimes I feel absolute dread, because of what I might find out, or how she is going to react.

SoldierDad