W just told me she wants out

[sandi2]

Will you listen to someone who was almost a WAW? She sees what you are calling "a good man" or "a nice man" in an entirely different way. I think she sees you as weak, clingly, codependent,and pursuing. You must present yourself as a strong, confident man who any woman would be crazy to leave. You need to act assured of your sexual attractiveness to other women and not be worried about your W going after some OM b/c you know that you are going to be fine regardless of what she does.

You need to talk to her the way you would talk to a coworker or any other person who is nobody special in your life. She has been reading you like a book and she needs to see that you are not affected by what she is doing with OM, but that you are moving on with your life.

She seemed to avoid me right before she left like we were getting along too well and she didn't want that

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No, I think you have it wrong. She was avoiding you b/c she was afraid that you would think the two of you were getting along well and that you would try to make it mean something. That is one reason why a WAW will treat LBH so badly is b/c if she's nice then he'll think she's ready to reconcile.

I don't want ro screw up. I'm probably wrong but it just seems by leaving her alone I'll be easier to forget about.

That is not the way it works. Detaching works. You can do what you "think" should work or do what really gets results. Yes, you wait for her to come to you.

If she thinks that you are actually looking forward to being single, then that will get her attention a lot more than the things you think should work.