My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

my friend who lives out of town (about 800 miles out of town!) is a wonderful man (college professor, who works extensively with CBT) with his own healing to do. don't know if it's because of that, or if it's just him, but after inviting me "in" and establishing some real emotional intimacy, he pulled further and further away, and told me I was clingy. it became a repeat of my R with xH--waiting for the "real" man to return. with xH I waited about 18 years--and then he left, taking the "real" him to someone else. it became a familiar pain. I went back and forth between trying to be patient and hurting badly, and finally just gave up. maybe the timing was just bad, I don't know. I really have no business being in any kind of relationship right now anyway.