Wife probably has BPD, I will never have her back

[ClingingToHope]

I'm not a doctor so I can't tell the difference. They still sound remarkably similar so you have to battle it the same way, I guess. Time, space, patience. I walked around on eggshells for three years, but I'm guessing it's just MLC.

I was out with a friend the other night and I had another friend -- a female -- with me. If my W files for D I would ask this lady out. Right now I'm maintaining kind of an awkward friendship. I told my guy friend that she's 180 degrees different than W. She's outgoing, social, jokes a lot.

He said my W never smiled and never seemed happy and that I'd be crazy to go back to her. All I could say is 13 years is an awful lot of history to just walk away from.

How do you care for someone who blames there unhappiness on you? That's the question I haven't found an answer for.