hoping for better times to come

[avermont]

Pearl, I have read your posts about trying to be "pleasant" and "ignoring the elephant in the room" when you first found out about your BF OW.

I have to assume, though, that you were still living together? and thus BF was cake-eating and it wasn't doing a whole heck of a lot for your self-esteem?

As my BF moved in with OW, I feel like I am in the classic DB mode of "waiting it out" and 180-ing (and you've seen my trouble with that--having been withdrawn, I want to do 180's that gently express interest in his life).

Did you wind up kicking BF out in order to end cake-eating and start working on yourself?

Trying to catch up on folk's threads and histories so I might learn from those wiser than myself...