Not sure which way to go anymore

[Serenity13]

(((Mystik))))

You are only on the losing end of this situation if that is how you choose to look at things.

You can allow him to make the decisions or you can validate his concerns as well as let him know where you stand...

My H wants a divorce (which I don't believe in) and when he goes off ranting and raving like the lunatic he has become, I let him know the following...

I understand why you feel this way however my answer is no.
I am sorry you feel this way however my answer is no.
I can see how this makes you feel however my answer is no.

And everytime I pull back he gets all worried and pesters me to know what's wrong.

My point exactly -
Let him see you moving on -
Let him see what life will be like without you -
Let him see that you are not going to break -
Let him see you being defined by you and not him.

Don't tell him anything is wrong - Because all you are doing is feeding the monster (as I call it) - He is looking for a justification for his own guilt and by doing this, you are handing it to him on a silver platter.

As I was told early on - Make him own his own s**t.