Listen to VH...because he is hitting it. I would definitely pass on the Happy Thanksgiving to her. If she sends it to you, than reply nice back.."To you too". If she then asks "What are your plans?"...easy enough.."going out". KISS it all the way....but don't start it at all.
With the kids with her out of town....tomorrow may be a good day to start practicing a new technique....which is...hold the applause....hold it....."Mystery Ayk"...ok...applause now.
So what do you think about bringing out "Mystery Ayk"?
wish i read that, i keep telling myself too many words, she just texted me:
we made it.
the old me would've worried the whole trip and would want updates.that was one of her put downs, that i worried too much.
so i texted back:
knew u would enjoy the time.
She doesn't want to know that you knew she would endjoy the time. In fact, did she even say that? No! She just said she made it back. So, you say, "K". or better yet, nothing!
Several things are happening here. First, at least in this case, you read her mind, and told her what she was thinking. I don't expect that she likes that. You are making an imaginary conversation.
And, you are doing all the work. If she wants to say more than "we made it", let her. But don't put the words in her mouth.
Texting back like things are "normal" is going to make her think things are just the way they have been. Maybe not conciously, but it's there. Being different than she is used to, even just a little, will possibly get her to thinking that things are not the way they have been.
oh i thought the "knew you would", yeah i've always been longwinded in conversation, texts, emails with her, always pumping her up or complimenting her.
and i knew it last nite, hit me just bfore went to bed and got up and wrote it down, here on out, yes, no, maybe, understand, ok. and that's it.
d and she had troubles, i picked d up kept her with me.
wife is adamant d is lying to her etc. D is mad as hell with her mom, keep saying patience, it's not your mom, etc.
wife forwarded me texts of d texts to her, they weren't nice, but i'm siding with d on what she said.
wife didn't like a cnslr comment and in her tirade last nite, mentioned it, "wonder where she got that from," I immediately responded not going to respond to that anymore and changed topic, asked her how her day went with her family.
this am, texted wife:Vent to me anytime, tell me how stuff makes you feel inside anytime just don't chastise k
she responded back:K
then we just kinda texted back and forth.
ended the texts acting like a teen back to her, told her not to fart on son while he's holding the ladder for her while she's hanging lites.
i offered to help with lites and to fix the dryer she bought the part. see what happens.
more excited about the k part when i asked her to vent to me.
hopefully that leads somewhere.
throwing a party on saturday and I did go looking for bubbles, first time been to one of those places, went with $20 came out with $18. It was a quiet nite so just sat and listened to a group of dancers, too funny. i think what caught attention is i was not paying them any attention and was drinking coke.
working on my listening skills at every opportunity.
