Rob... I'll answer in detail your questions a bit later. I just showered/hair'd/make-up'd, and, there will be tears as I respond. I need to respond, though, and admit what it is... Maybe that's healing?
Jeff... you are correct. Not sure how, though.
Gno.. I used to be mindblank! (Should all be together in my posts, though)
Hey lady, you take your time, no one is rushing you here, I may be an ass buster when talking to the guys on this forum but I can easily be sensitive to any women that are hurting due to a walk away husband's thoughtless & insensitive ways, no worries, you reply back when you're ready.
Being honest with yourself is sometimes extremely difficult, we don't want to believe that someone we invested so much love in could hurt us so much but it happens.
And the tears, yup, they happen, even to smart ass punks like myself (although not anymore), you will get over it too in time.
I'll say it a million times on this forum until everyone of you get it registered: Let go of the people in your life that you don't value you or the relationship they have with you. You have no value to them if they know you will always be there waiting for them, the wake up call for them is when they assume you are there and you aren't. That is when your value goes up, that is when the tables turn and that's when things change and even if you leave and your spouse doesn't care, you have your answer either way.
Take care of yourself and take your time responding back, I know when I'm talking to someone who is hurting and hey you're allowed to hurt & cry & express that emotion. It's because you love someone who isn't returning that precious energy back to you: you're human and you have a heart, everyone should be lucky to claim the same.
