Wife probably has BPD, I will never have her back

[brknheart]

Good info Lostwords. I was blind to a lot of things over the years and its only after separating that I started remembering things my W has done. Anything that went wrong was always my fault, she was "never happy" in all the years we were married, she can shut people out of her life in a snap of the fingers. She has done this to her siblings and now she is doing this to me. While some cases of BPD are more extreme than others, its very true that a S cannot handle it most of the time. I think I was comfortable most of the time and just accepted it. It wasnt until after the separation that my friends and family started telling me how uncomfortable she made them at times and other things they have seen her act/do. My psychologist says she will never be happy...very sad. She comes from a messed up family, here is a quote that I heard on the show Criminal Minds the other day, touches on family values. After hearing this quote, it made me realize that she may have never been stable and loyal to our marriage.

So much of what is best in us is bound up in our love of family, that it remains the measure of our stability because it measures our sense of loyalty. All other pacts of love or fear derive from it and are modeled upon it.
Haniel Long -