ssmgy - I didn't realize you have already made the decision to be repeatedly unfaithful. Because of this, your marriage now has insurmountable problems beyond being an ssm.
The marriage your wife thought she was in, doesn't exist. The man your wife thought she was married to, doesn't exist. Do you think this is better than divorce? Its too bad that you didn't even give your wife a choice to decide on either divorce or a sham marriage, or possibly taking the steps needed to change the ssm. You made that choice for the both of you, and for that reason, your wife's marriage is a sham now. She doesn't know the truth of her own life.
Before you think I'm judging you, please know that I made the same choice you did in my previous marriage. After many years of learning and growing, I now understand that I was NOT entitled to sex outside the marriage, and that I made my own marriage a sham by doing so. I hope one day you'll understand this yourself, because the truth is something that can't be hidden.
Good luck, ssmguy. I hope somehow you and your wife can tackle the problems you've built into your marriage.
