Not sure which way to go anymore

[Mystik]

Talked with my sister last weekend, she is glad that I am reaching the point where enough is enough and I want to say something to him instead of just sitting back and not doing anything. She feels I should give him an ultimatum, tell him he has a week to move out of the place he has with her and tell him if he can’t do it then I want him to start the divorce paperwork. I don’t see the purpose of giving him an ultimatum unless my goal is to push him away even farther, which it is not. I think I’ll just tell him how I feel, and that if a reconciliation is what he wants it would be better to do it now than to wait until the lease is up at the end of May because if he chooses to wait, he runs the risk of me moving on. Every day that he goes home to her is another day I hurt, and another day I struggle to close myself off from the hurt he causes, and therefore close myself off from him. I have hurt so much already, how much hurt can a person take before they stop loving the person who hurts them?

It is a hard pill to swallow, knowing that your husband is off building a new life and new family with another person after promising you he would love you forever and would never leave and saying you are the love of his life. Now all I have to look forward to is a life of solitude and a whole pile of shattered dreams. Now and then that pill chokes me, and the past couple days were choking days.

ETA: Just need to decide if I should text him now, wait and e-mail him Monday at work or casually suggest it next time I see him that we can talk next Sunday if he wants.