The holidays are going to be hard on you & the kids. S9 is the youngest and if he is turned a lot like your W then it is understandable that he feels a strong connection with her. He's so young and to me, he's still at that age that he wants & needs his mother's closeness. I'm sure he feels very insecure right now and that is normal b/c he is still a child. Don't beat yourself up too much for calling her about him. You can see where that would not be something you should make a habit of, but when you're very concerned about the welfare of your son you do what you feel you have to. You don't want him to end up with some of his mother's problems. Keeping him occupied as much as possible may help, but you know him better than anyone else, so you do what your gut tells you to do.

Does he have close friends? Kids seem to make it better if their friends are around them. Maybe one of them could spend some extra time with him during the holidays. Just a thought.


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!