Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

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Hi soldierdad! Wow, this place got busy! I understand your concern about your distance. My H started his A while on TAD, or TDY I think you guys call it. I dont think that you need to use the evidence to confront her, but you should have them handy in case it gets to that. Im sure that shes not going to want to see herself doing these reprehensible things. But you should tell her that you have the proof. And you really need to document these things to help protect your retirement and your and your kids future benefits.

I wouldnt do it with your kids around either. It could get pretty ugly and they dont need to see it. Set up a hidden camera. Do you have a camcorder, or digital recorder? Charge up the batteries.

Also, Its not necessarily that the affair is a deal breaker, if its not for you, but it is unacceptable, and if she continues to do it, is that really a marriage that you want to be a part of?

Right now she is in a fog and only hard ball will work. Shes not thinking like normal people, (though she is thinking like a totally "normal" WAW), whether there is an A right now or not, she is thinking that you are the obstacle to her happiness, and when you are gone, life will be excellent. And its a totally unrealistic, fictional fantasy. You need to let her see that. Sorry if that was a little harsh.

She will be paying close attention, and you keep up your positive attitude and take good care of yourself.