-- Build up enough strength to deal with the results, either way.
Before you do anything else regarding a possible A, make sure you have done this! Know that you are ready. And know what you plan to do. (Though I understand that even the best laid plans can be derailed in that kind of situation.)
I think it is very likely that something is going on, or was going on. Or that he is looking. But until you are ready to know, it won't do you any good.
Your immediate goals, on the other hand, are good. Though I might wait on "snooping". It's really important that you take care of yourself, the road ahead could be rough, and you are going to need to be strong mentally and physically to get through it.
I hope you feel better and have a great afternoon!
