Montana, get used to her saying that this has been going on for years. It is WAS script, and you will be blamed for everything under the sun. I am curious as to why you were the one to move out also. When my XW wanted to end things, I made it very clear that only one of us wanted out, and that person could use the door, not me. Is there any chance of you being able to move back into your home at this point? You are losing a lot of ground by being out of the home, and losing even more if this does go to the big D. Did the kids stay in the home? The more info you can post, the more help you be able to get from this site. Also, if you add your last post to your profile as your signiture, it will help alot of people here reading your sitch.