Be realistic. Never discount the possibility of another person involved when a marriage goes south. Name one thing that would be more enticing to leave your home and your children?

You live in a small town. You would have heard by now; You would have seen them?

Naive. there have been backdoors since the begining of time. cunning men and women have figured out a greater purpose for them. And if she is married, nobody would have a clue, nobody would have seen, IT IS A GAME BRITT. its called HOW LONG CAN YOU CHEAT WITHOUT GETTING CAUGHT. its a very popular game too, even in small towns, you just dont play it so you dont know how the rules go. Dont discount the possibility.

Then again, maybe your husband has serious issues. how long has he been unwilling to except responsibility (runs alway from responsibility)? does he have a history of depression? alcoholism, drugs? is he one of those people who ignores his family and life to play online video games all night? does he have a online porn addiction? oh he likes hockey, does he really get off on sweaty guys? or is that a coverup for something else? was your marriage really "wonderful" as you say? Explore his past and present issues for us so we can better understand.

Regarding Part II. and this goes for sad girl too. unless it makes you happy, I am not recommeding you find some guy in a bar and get on your back and spread your legs. unless that will make you happy. However, Are you into magic? acting? I recommend illusion and creating a leading role in which you the character are full of mystery, jealousy, create clues that lead to deadends (making them constantly wonder what you are up to). Base your character on your favorite walk away spouse. If you have noticed on this board the walk away spouse holds all the power and control in the relationship.

here read this on http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1882269&page=1 guy split, left his wife and children, is probably having an affair and the wife is hanging on, receiving crumbs for attention, trying to figure out what to do while the husband is off doing who knows what. The day this girl dumps her husband and either finds herself a new 'buddy' or creates the illusion that one is in the picture and she is getting sexed right and left is the day she takes control and the power back in this relationship and can decide if this is something SHE wants to make work.

I will be back later with more taughts on the subject. For now I am going to leave you with the idea that you need to get out and find a job ASAP. part-time job opposite of our husband schedule so he can watch the kids for you while you are at work. Nothing says I am moving on with my life then when a SAHM goes out and finds a job and doesnt discuss it with her husband.