Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

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Thanks Coach-everyone, I really appreciate it. No, she hasn't said that is what she would do, I am just preparing for the worst case. My chain of command is aware of my issues, and are extremely supportive. So, do I tell her I know about the OM, when I get back, as a part of my boundaries? Also, just got a voicemail from her, asking for the paypal password, she wanted to buy something, and then the last thing she said was "nice that you changed the passowrd and didn't tell me" click. I did change, it, and I linked it to my new account. She can open her own account. Not sure if I should call her back and tell her that-nope, never mind, not gonna do it. She is a big girl, she can do it.

So you are introducing her to the Big Girl Panties way of life. So you want to leave your husband, sister? Pay your way. You cannot buy your cake with Soldier's paypal acct. and eat it, too. And that goes for your other money, too. Make your money separate and let her know you will pay all of the bills which support the household. Her 'nice to have - I want this b/c I'm the bomb' expenses will have to come out her pay (mani/pedi, cell phone, Victoria's Secret, etc.) You will support the household and the boys b/c you take care of your family. However, if she is stepping out or otherwise leaving, clearly she is choosing not to be IN the family and that goes on HER tab. Big Girl Panties.

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