He was cold because he knows he is responsible for hurting you, that's his issue to own not yours. The alone feeling becomes empowering after a while. You realize this is your journey alone to make. It was then I came up with my "I can handle it" mantra. Nobody else was going to do it. You have to take the steps on your own but you are not alone.
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Thanks so much Coach.
"The alone feeling becomes empowering after awhile."
It is so interesting that you said that, as that is exactly what I was just struggling with before I read your post.
Yet, I can see what you mean by that.
None of us asked to be in this sitch, yet when forced into it, we find an inner strength that propels us to make changes in our life for the good.
Your "I can handle it" mantra is so helpful for me. I have been continuing to tell myself "I will be ok no matter what."
Today... if I am brave enough... I am going to try to visualize my life as a D person, single mom. (whew... I had an emotional surge just typing that... but that's ok... I'm ok....)
I think I need to do that to face this fear, which is blocking me from being strong enough to do what I need to do.
I don't know if I can do it today, pretty emotional, but I am going to give it a try.
In the meantime, after this morning, probably best to "go dark" for the day with H right? Let him do any contacting if he chooses?
