Help... I need to stop reacting!

[Gnosis]

RW I've been watching your thread, can't remember if I've commented before or not.

H turned cold, said he had to go and left.

You did nothing wrong. It happened. He won't see this as manipulation on your part.

Of course now, I feel ten times worse because of the coldness.

There is nothing you could have done. It happened. It's NOT YOUR FAULT. Don't blame yourself.

RE: Coldness
It's an instinctual reaction from him. He knows you are hurting and its all his fault. His coldness was a way for him to compartmentalize the guilt he was feeling at that moment. He's put on his 'brave face.' Later when he is in a position to handle it he will open it up and go through it.

How do I recover this situation? Just leave it and get back to the 180's and GALing?

Yes.

Do you think it did a lot of damage?

Not a lot, but there was a some damage. The flip-side to this is that this will give him something to think about. It may work in your favor because your H is a 'damsel in distress' man. Right now he can't rush to your aid because he has his own barriers set up. Don't blame yourself and don't think that he doesn't care. He does. He just can't handle it at the moment.

Keep doing what you've been doing.