She has threatened to call the police if you walk into your own home - tell your 1st Sgt/CO, get off-base legal advice.
Show up at your house with a friend. Keep your phone with you at all times doesn't it have a camera/video recorder on it?
Document all these threats, see if you can get her to say it in a e-mail. You fight hard-ball with hard-ball. Don't negotiate with a terrorist. You are not going to match her emotions, the more upset she gets the calmer you get. She is going to try and bait you into a fight, don't take the bait.
Use the systems in place to help you. Get information from your chain of command, they are trained in how to deal with these things. You have more resources at your disposal than you realize.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
