Any Way the Wind Blows

[kjensen]

You say "I see a marriage that is retriveable and could be fantastic again, but someone hell bent on a road away from that, who is very very unhappy and blames me for everything wrong in his life, without understanding."

That describes my feelings as well.
Keep your eye on the road and focus on you. We can't change our spouses. We can't help them see things more 'clearly' until they are ready. It is the most frustrating situation!